Let It Go

EDITOR’S NOTE: Cross-posted from Liz’s personal blog – the Srsly Liz.

By Liz Franco

Lately, I have been teaching myself to do the impossible, and that is to let go of any and everything bringing me down. This includes negative feelings, thoughts and even people.

Let me tell you, it has not been easy.

I consider myself to be a perfectionist. I’ll even go a step further and say I can be a bit of a control-freak. I’ve always been somewhat of a leader and rarely a follower. You know that question they often ask during job interviews? “What would you describe as your strength and weakness?” Well, I would always admit to my prospective employer that my greatest downfall is having trouble relying on other people. There was no way I was going to let Billy or Katie be responsible for anything with my name on it. I was a firm believer that if you want something done right you should just do it yourself. It was my way or the highway *hair flip*

I know, I KNOW. What a brat, right?

A few months ago after some major life changes it suddenly dawned on me. There are just some things I can’t control. Namely, other people. After I became single, I slowly but steadily grew estranged from some of my closest group of friends. And it killed me. In fact, it still sometimes does. There’s a million sides to everyone’s story and although I’ve tried to make sense of it and do my best to mend bridges, I’ve just had to accept it is what it is, and let it go. I’ve taken this mindset to pretty much all areas of my life. If a potential client declines my {quite fair} quote? Let it go. If I’ve had a less-than stellar day at work and the 80 year old man driving in front of me is going 5mph {how DARE he} during rush hour traffic? Let it go. If I’m laying in bed in the dark at 2am unable to sleep because whenever I close my eyes all I can see flashing is the question, “what the hell are you doing with your life?” Let it go. If my best friend has no desire to listen with her heart and drown out the gossipy voices? Let it go. I have to let it go because if I don’t, it will all eat me alive.

And you know what? Sometimes, a beautiful miracle happens and when you let go of the things that are wrong, the right things begin to find you. Or better yet, you might let something go and it comes back again but this time you know its right.

Right now, in this moment I can say that I finally feel like I’m beginning to get somewhere. I’m being less hard on myself and more honest with myself. I’m learning how to love again, myself & those around me I care about. I have plans and my eyes are set on the bright horizon. And if for some reason, this plan doesn’t pan out, I’ll know what to do. Let it go, and make a new one.

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  1. Jamee says

    Wonderful article. We could ALL work on this!

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