Discussion: New Year’s Resolutions: Way to Make Them Worth It

By Devon Carey Berrier

If you look up the word “resolution” in the dictionary you will find words like “decision,” “determination,” and “solution”.  New Year’s resolutions embody all these words.

We make lists we are determined to complete that will give us a sense of self-improvement. I was thinking the other day about my own New Year’s resolutions and tried to remember if I have ever kept one.

After about an hour of pondering all the lost lists that I have written and tried (but failed) to keep, I realized that I always went about resolutions the wrong way.  This year I am going to make a resolution that I will try and keep forever, not just through the end of 2010.  I am making the resolution to be more positive and optimistic when thinking about myself and in the way I treat myself.

I am very much the perfectionist and unfortunately I am constantly judging myself for not being perfect enough. The reality is—no one is perfect!  My goal for 2010 is to recognize my faults, but not attack myself for them. Rather, I am going to encourage myself to work on those faults while maintaining a positive outlook (I will become better at yoga, I will run that half-marathon, I will be a better wife and friend, etc.).

The reality is I won’t ever reach any of my goals if I continue to tell myself that I am not good enough and can’t reach my goals.  With a positive attitude towards myself I can reach any goal I put forth.  So, if this year you are trying to think of a New Year’s Resolution, try something a little more introspective and you may find that those other goals (like losing that extra 5 pounds, or becoming better at keeping your budget, or eating healthier) will become easier to attain.

It’s possible to make a life-lasting change in your outlook on life—I am hoping I can do this for myself.

EDITOR’s NOTE:  We want to hear from you – what are some of your New Year’s Resolutions? We would love to hear about your resolutions and how you plan to keep them. Leave your comments below!

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5 Comments

  1. Ashlee Gadd says

    I resolve to give more and take less. I resolve to save more and spend less. I resolve to listen better. I resolve to invest more time in the friends who invest their time in me. I resolve to remember birthdays. I resolve to be a better wife. I resolve to be more adventurous with my cooking. I resolve to celebrate more and complain less. I resolve to care less what others think of me, and care more about what I think of myself. I resolve to go against the mailbox theory and write more handwritten letters and cards. I resolve to read more. I resolve to be more honest with myself and others. I resolve to run a half marathon because I know I can do it. I resolve to work harder. I resolve to find my dream job, because I believe I deserve it. I resolve to laugh often and cry less. I resolve to love stronger. I resolve to trust more and doubt less. I resolve to quit soda and wear more sunscreen.

    -From my blog post “i resolve to”…..You can read the rest of the post at http://wheremyheartresides.com/?paged=2

  2. Amy says

    Eat less refined sugar, be more productive and be a better friend. Keep my priorities in order and have fun doing it!

    I think resolutions are a bit pointless but I do think that reflecting and goal setting is really important!

  3. Robin says

    Not sure what I’ll resolve this year – but a couple years back, I resolved to “take more risks” and it was the best resolution I ever made…

  4. laura says

    After more than a year off, I resolve to start hitting the gym again on a regular basis. The bfriend really wants to climb Kilimanjaro for our next vacation so that’s my motivation.

    I also resolve to stop watching stupid TV shows (goodbye Housewives, the City, the Hills, Talk Soup, etc) and read the dozens of books I’ve bought but never read.

    Nothing too original – the unique thing for me is that I’m actually going to do them this year!! 🙂

  5. Amelia says

    I resolve to get better at managing my money because I want to be more in control of my finances. I hate feeling out of control and not knowing where/how I spend my money.

    I plan to meet next month with an accountant (for the first time in my life) and just plain get better at budgeting and balancing my accounts. That will probably mean less clothes-buying and more making dinners at home, but that’s another good resolution to make!

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